However, society is changing today. We are breaking ties with our close ones even if we are living in the same house. There are many reasons that are fueling this. People are losing the emotional connect they had earlier. Celebratory family dinners, festival gatherings, occasions, all these things are dwindling away. People are bringing their work home and that’s taking them away from their family too.
This is leading to problems such as loneliness, depression, spats within the family members, periods of non-communication between members of the family, etc… each of which can take a serious toll on the lives of everyone involved.
So what is the way to ensure you live more fruitfully with your family?
One of the main things you will need here is communication. Whatever the extent of your work is, however busy you are, do make it a point to speak with every member of your family every day. People from India have a great saying here – A family that eats together stays together. This is a distortion of the English saying – A family that prays together stays together. But if you were to think about it, both these sayings are quite apt. Both of them can be quite instrumental in bringing families closer. Make such a routine in your household. You may not pray together, but you can certainly eat together. Switch the television off during these meals. Schedule a fixed time each day. You will find that you exchange much more in these few minutes than you do in your entire day.
Families usually don’t expect much from you. All they want is that you stay responsive to them. They want to know that you are there for them. They may not expect material benefits from you, but they certainly expect the feeling of closeness and warmth that you can give them.
Make sure you give them this. Don’t drift away from your family. Tomorrow, if you happen to be alone, the biggest sorrow you will have will be of moving away from your family.
People who are closer to their families are happier. They are not alone. They can face the trials and tribulations of life together. Even as you try to discover your own individual freedom, try to keep your ties with your family members alive, and that doesn’t mean just the members of your family staying in the house – it refers to everyone that has any kind of familial connection with you.